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Collar Conundrum

I thought I was done with this issue a couple of years ago when my pet accidentally lost her first collar, and we replaced it with one that seemed a bit more practical, wasn’t necessarily going to get misplaced inadvertently, and wasn’t going to have issues with allergies to its material.

It worked for a few years.  But we’ve run into a bugaboo with the last issue.  As with many metals, aluminum isn’t necessarily designed to be worn for years.  Even with washing, skin oils, and the like, there will be a compatibility problem.

Recently my pet asked for permission to remove her collar as it was beginning to discolor her skin, and cause issues.  Because it was a health and comfort issue, I agreed.  While I’m not thrilled with the idea of her going without it, it’s not as if we’ve abandoned our connection or our dynamic.  It’s just missing the physical representation of the same.  And I’m presently at a loss as to what to replace it with.  My kneejerk reaction is something more permanent, something that can’t be taken off without effort, but again with metal, there is always an issue of safety, and the permanence can be itself an issue.  I don’t want some ER intern running to Home Depot for a hacksaw to remove a Ring of Steel or Eternity collar, as once it’s cut, that’s it, it can’t be repaired.  That’s not to say I would have an issue with it if it was an emergency.  The health of my property is paramount.  Let’s not get into that sort of discussion, it’s counterproductive.

That all being said, it still leaves me with the conundrum.  What’s going to be collar #3?  Or even will there be one?  I have many collars in my toy collection, but they’re essentially play collars, they don’t have significant significance.  They get put on for the duration of the scene, then they’re removed and put away once it’s complete.  I’ve mulled around other options, like perhaps a ring, or anklet, but again I’m not certain either is the right fit for us.  The bottom line it’s partly about symbolism, and a warning to those that would know by seeing it, that she’s not available.  Anyone else (vanillas) is going to see it as a decoration, or affectation, and little else, if they even notice it at all.  “What a pretty necklace!”.  Sure, that’s what it is.

I’ve made no decisions, I’ve just been mulling it over.  And thought I’d write about it.  More than likely I will write about it again.  Soon?  We’ll see,

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Our ‘Chair’

A kinky friend of mine posted today about a session she and her Master had with a particular piece of furniture they own.  It easily reminded me of many conversations my Pet and I have had over the years about the inclusion of a similar piece of furniture that could be incorporated into our play.  She’s sent me pictures of different types, each more ornate than the next.  Certainly, any one of them could be fantasy fodder for any type of scene, from basic worship up to and including detailed BDSM play.

While I was composing an answer for my friend’s blog, I began relating a story about how a rather unique chair came to become a treasured memory for my Pet and I.   While I was writing, I thought instead of posting it there, I would write about it here.  So here’s the story.

It was in 2018, we were meeting in Harrisburg, PA for a visit equidistant to one another.  We were going to play, but we also decided to do a bit of sightseeing, and one of the places we went to was the Fire Museum there.  Amongst the other items in the building was a set of rather ornate chairs that apparently were used by some quorum at one time or another and were preserved for posterity by the Harrisburg Fire Department.

Suffice it to say, my Pet thought it would be a neat idea to have me pose in the chair, and take a picture, then pose with her kneeling (or sitting) at my feet and take another.  Over the years it’s been one of our favorite pictures, and considering how we like the idea of incorporating a ‘Chair of Honor’ into our plans for the future, it seemed like a good way of commemorating the occasion.