On my slave’s Fetlife account, she has a profile. In that profile, it details a good deal about her as well as touches on different portions of her ‘Fet Life’ so far. One of the things I require her to have in it is what someone needs to do if they wish to ‘friend her’ on the site. Specifically, they need to read her profile in its entirety and follow the directions embedded within. If they can’t manage to do that, then they don’t deserve to be on her friends’ list. That seems very fair if you ask me. If you can’t do the work, you don’t get rewarded. Her ex couldn’t manage to do this, so he didn’t get friended.
As in most social networks, or even personals sites, women’s in boxes get flooded. Unless a male is offering something really special, their inbox hardly ever gets mail. It’s been that way ever since I started before there was an established Internet and more than likely it will remain that way for as long as I’ll be online. Just one of ‘those things’ you accept as being the norm and deal with it. The reason I’m mentioning that is, my slave gets probably a good amount of mail from prospective people who read her profile to a certain extent, see her pictures or in other ways have interacted with her and wish to be part of her ‘inner circle’. Others are hangers-on, or just want to add her to their friends’ list and never contact her again. Like me, she’s not a friend collector, so her list of people she interacts with is small. Myself, I’ve been on Fetlife for the better part of 10 years now and my own friends’ list numbers no more than 60 at any given time.
Every now and again she asks me if someone can be added to the list. I decide on a case-by-case basis. It’s an odds on bet that the person in question hasn’t necessarily followed the rules, and they’re asking for an exception to be made. Or it’s someone she met at a munch or some other sort of get-together that she’s been to. So I’ll scoot over to their profile, have a look-see, and if everything seems to check out, and I don’t feel there’s something untoward in their profile, I agree she can add them. Of course, if after being allowed into the ‘inner sanctum’ they start to misbehave, or begin to make overtures about her interactions with them, I’ll inevitably hear about it. My girl knows on which side her ‘bread is buttered’, she’s not going to just go off with someone because they have a good line or two to lay on her. She’s content in being owned by me, she’s not interested in being owned by anyone else. And that’s the way it’s going to always be.
Social networks are a great way for we as people to interact, to be in contact and to make new friends. Even so, as tools, they need to be used with great care and respect.