Last year I made a foray into collaring my slave. Given that we’re separated by 3 states here in the US, and she has a job where she interacts with the public a great deal, initially we had decided on something that was, or could be ‘mistaken’ for something less than it actually was. Unlike fiction, anything can be considered a ‘collar’, per se. With a previous submissive, we settled on an ‘Eternity’ cuff, a steel circlet that could be made semi-permanent by the fact that it was secured with a screw. If I had kept the allen wrench that controlled the screw, then (at least in theory), I could control when it was on and when it was off. If my submissive were creative, and wishing to be ‘bad’, she could get an allen wrench on her own and remove it if she wished. But we didn’t have that sort of relationship, she honored the cuff as well as the symbolism which it engendered, and I allowed her to have a wrench in case it needed to come off for some reason, unforseen by either of us. And it worked, for as long as the relationship lasted. I still have the cuff, she returned it to me about 6 months after we parted ways.
For my current charge, after searching high and low for the ‘right’ collar, I found an artisan on Etsy that crafted jewelry that was both aesthetically pleasing as well as functional. Granted the artisan in question lives/works in Russia, so getting something from her was going to take some time. Too, since my slave informed me that she doesn’t so much like a necklace/collar that rides too high on her throat, I had to have a longer than normal version of the collar crafted to accommodate her needs. All in all it took a little less than a month from the time that I initially contacted the artisan, to the time when the collar arrived in my mailbox. Fortunately, it coincided with my trip to visit with my girl in Pennsylvania last year and during a little ceremony in our hotel room, I presented her with it and she began wearing it as close to 24/7 as she could.
But then tragedy struck. The collar was lost during a trip she had made to a local (for her) beach. To her credit, once it was discovered as missing she immediately went back to the place where she had been (it was close to the middle of the night) to search for it, but unfortunately it wasn’t to be found. Needless to say, I was less than pleased. I paid a good amount of money for it, and in the space of a couple of months, it was gone. Just like that. I have to admit, it was the first anything of that nature that a submissive of mine lost. Considering that it was only in her possession for a little over a month, I wasn’t exactly in a hurry to get something else in the same vein.
It’s now been seven months since the last collar escaped. In that time we’ve had several conversations about ‘when is she going to get a new collar‘. As before, it’s not an easy answer because it’s not an insignificant investment. Especially since we now can confirm something that can be removed can easily be lost. So in spite of the fact that she has a preference for something that’s loose around her throat, I’m thinking that it’s going to be my preference this time, that it be something that’s difficult to remove. Not impossible, since we’re separated by mileage and hours, but something that requires invested effort to remove.
So, the main purveyors in this genre are Eternity and ROS (Ring Of Steel). (There’s also Damax on the continent, but due to shipping issues and overseas exchange rates I’m mainly concentrating on domestic suppliers) ROS has a version that’s they refer to as a ‘Stealth’ collar, in that it’s only 1/4″ diameter steel tubing. Consequently, it tends to be less noticeable, or allows it to fade into the background, as it were. Of course, as I’ve noticed over the years, it’s usually the person themselves that either call attention to something or not, depending on how they wear it. If the wearer treats the item as an extension of themselves, then others don’t necessarily look at the item as something unusual. If it’s the reverse, and they’re uncomfortable with it, then it tends to get noticed more often.
In order to do this right of course, I need an accurate measurement (again). We have a visit planned for the end of April or the beginning of May, so I can get her neck measured and if I’m completely certain, I can send off the order to whichever business I determine is going to give me the best bang for my buck, as well as can have it completed in a fair amount of time. Small time artisans don’t work on an assembly line, they’re not putting out wares for the masses, at least you hope they’re not. As the old saw goes; Quality vs. Quantity.
There will be updates. This isn’t the final decision.