decisions

And it begins!

My pet made it here yesterday afternoon around 4:30. We haven’t played yet, though I did have her wearing one of my shackle sets while we watched a movie last night. The important thing was getting her here and with a bit of luck and a good tailwind, she managed to navigate the highways and byways without too much angst.  As I understand it, the last 50 miles were the worst, something that I myself have experienced, since the final push requires a strong bladder.  Suffice it to say, you may be able to land a military plane on an Interstate, but if they don’t have sufficient rest stops, people are going to have to keep their legs crossed strongly.  Just saying!

Since she’d just finished a long drive, the second order of business was to get her fed.  Seeing as she’d been hankering for a particular recipe that I make on occasion (BBQ cups) I had laid on supplies to make a double batch, seeing as there was more than just the normal two of us (my wife and I).  My pet watched from the kitchen doorway for a few minutes (we have what can be best described as a ‘galley’ kitchen here in the old house) until I beckoned her in and got her busy browning the ground beef while I flattened out the store-bought biscuit dough, laying them in the muffin tins.  The recipe calls for a very basic, but quite ingenious barbeque sauce (ketchup, a bit of brown sugar, chili powder & vinegar) which doesn’t have to be cooked into the beef very long, but giving it a few minutes to warm up and meld with the beef can’t hurt.  Soon after I scooped the mixture into the dough cups, added a little shredded cheese, and slid the two tins into a piping hot oven for a 17 1/2 minute baking turn.  One could easily find them mouth-watering from the scent alone.  When it came time to serve, they were more than well-received.  As I mentioned, no play happened last night, we both were actually too tired to do anything in that regard.

The plan for today is to head to the basement and get the playspace cleaned up and squared away.  I have to dismantle my old weight bench, rearrange the things that have accumulated in the quasi-workshop, excise cobwebs (and their accompanying spiders), and run the Hoover down and around to clean up the floor.  We need to come up with a workable plan for padding that floor a bit (I purchased some interlocking mats a couple of years ago but never used them as I had no one visiting to make use of the space) and adding a place where we can do aftercare. My pet is bringing a used air mattress that will work, since it can be deflated when not in use so as not to take up space downstairs between visits.

I’m definitely looking forward to making the downstairs into a proper, useable play area, that we can both use and enjoy.  More to come, just wanted to make an update!  So much to do, so little time!

Finding new ways to bide time

Well, 2021 has turned out to be a bust when it comes to getting together, it seems.  With the pandemic, 2020 didn’t work out for a variety of reasons, but we expected this year was going to be different.  While I was able to get out and travel a bit (stayed in my home state), I wasn’t able to make the ‘big trip’ going to see my girl.  Which to be clear is a major downer, and there are more reasons than just COVID as to why this was the case.

Even so, time doesn’t stand still, and progress isn’t curtailed with an interpersonal relationship, whether it’s vanilla or kinky.

Even so, we’re moving forward to 2022.  The new plan is for her to come here in the Spring.  In the meantime, I’ve set up a video feed here so that she can have an anchor of sorts here at the house, be able to see me (which is important) and we can interact in a new way, to augment the ones that we’ve been making use of for the last three and a half years.  So far, it seems to be working out OK.  In the morning before I go to work, we can interact a bit while I get dressed and in the evening she has limited access to the house network, as much as is needed for her to be able to interact and participate.  As before, so far it seems to be working out.

Even so, the distance and the time factor hasn’t been easy on either of us.  I often equate it to a soldier in olden times going off to war (think Crusades or some conflict where communication wasn’t exactly modern) being separated by years with the folks back home and only seeing one another every few years.  A lot of things are missed in that time.

One hopes too, that come 2022 the pandemic will be a rather nasty memory in the history of the world.  And not current events.

More to come.

It’s a great deal, but…

I was up this morning at the ungodly hour of six because my alarm clock malfunctioned (or I forgot to turn it off yesterday morning) and it went off at 5:45 am.  Upon rising to use the facilities, I was accosted by my cat (Rochester) who kindly informed me that there were issues downstairs that needed to be attended to.  He also wanted attention, and by attention I mean he wanted to be petted and to attempt to attack my hand as I was doing so.  Morning rituals, yanno.

Going downstairs meant I was going to probably stay up for awhile, as I never seem to be able to do just go down, do something and go back to bed.  Just not my routine anymore.  So of course I went to check his food (it was fine, he just ate a hole in what he had, and when he can see the bottom, he figures the bowl is empty) and get a cup of tea.  Before having the tea, I checked my blood sugar, and it was in the right range to allow me to have my morning libation.  Set the Keurig to do it’s work, and then came in the addition to turn on my computer.

Sybian

I have my Fetlife account set to send me messages (by email) when there are new posts in certain forums, and one of them is the ‘Kinky Items for Sale’ forum.  Along with different posts about certain items for sale was one that caught my eye.  SYBIAN for sale; well, that was worth a look.  The seller stated that he had a unit for sale that he no longer used because he recently went through a breakup.  Apparently he lends it to his next door neighbors now, and supposedly they’re uninterested in purchasing it from him so he’s offering it to whoever might be interested on Fet.  In his description he goes on to say that he’s offering the base unit along with a trove of attachments, basically he bought just about every attachment that was available from the company and now the whole thing is sitting around gathering dust.

His price is staggeringly reasonable, when you consider he’s including probably 10-12 attachments that alone are probably worth $1200-1500 in addition to the main unit, which if bought new would be about $1k [USD].  He didn’t say how old the unit was, but even so his price makes it a steal.  Normally I wouldn’t haggle (at one time I purchased 20 floggers at $2,000 sight unseen only through the knowledge of who had made most of them) but in this case I had just made a very large purchase the day before in another realm of my life.  So putting out another large chunk of money gave me pause for something that might not be used a whole lot in the immediate future.

Since this was something that wouldn’t be used on me at all, I went to Messenger and posted my morning message to my pet, along with the information and asking her opinion.  As it was a tool that would be used on her exclusively, I needed to know if she thought it was a good purchase to make at this time.  I didn’t expect to get an immediate reply, after all she has the day off and by all rights should be sleeping at 7 am.  Even so, she was awake and messaged me right back and as is her strong suit, wasn’t selfish in the least.  She pointed out that it was a good deal, but I needed to be aware of my limitations, and didn’t need to be spending a lot of money right now on something that would be stored for the foreseeable future. (Good girl!)

So, I’m passing on it.  But still on the lookout for the right deals as well as other things to add to my collection.  Considering I just added 300+ feet of rope to my holdings a few days ago, I haven’t yet finished my splurging.

 

Operation Home away from Home

My girl moved into a new apartment within the last week.  Even though she did most of the physical act of moving herself, she had assistance.  Even so, there were some things missing that she’s been without in the last few years.  When you share an apartment with a roommate, you tend to not need as many things as you would when living on your own.  When I asked her about the nuts and bolts of how she was going to cook and eat and so on, there was silence at the end of the phone line.  She has the basics, but not much more than that.  Something needed to be done.

Starting from Amazon, I put into motion Operation Home away from Home.  I had a budget in my brain, and I’m very interested in keeping to it, so as not to put myself into a financial bind.  To that end, I’ve furnished her kitchen, (glassware, crockery, small appliances and cooking utensils) made inroads into the bathroom (towels and a shower curtain) as well as a few other odds and ends.  I even went so far as to shop at Walmart.  For anyone that knows me, that’s a huge foray into the dark side as I normally wouldn’t be caught dead in one.  Being a dyed in the wool union member and shopping somewhere that is very anti-union is something at loggerheads.  But as they tend to sometimes have better prices than places like eBay, Wayfair, Overstock and yes even Amazon, one does what they have to keep to a budget.

metalbound-bed

metalbound.com canopy bed with stockade and cage

Seeing as I’m coming perilously close to my self-imposed monetary limit, the bigger ticket items (bed frame, dinette set, sofa/loveseat, rolling kitchen island, nightstand) are probably going to have to wait.  I have a particular bed frame in mind, as I want one that is useful for BDSM purposes, not just be comfortable to sleep in.  If I can’t have something like this, then I’ll make do with a iron frame bed and make minor changes to create something acceptable until I can afford a $4,000.00 bed frame.  Or have someone else make something similar.  Or even make it myself when I have a better understanding of welding.  Lots of possibilities that can be created in due time.

I know she’s going to be happy with whatever I purchase (except for the very act of doing so, as we’ve already talked about this whole thing at length), but in decorating your own place, there’s always the personal touch.  My idea of what furniture and such to buy isn’t necessarily in the same vein as hers.  I know there’s going to be some decisions I make she’s not going to be thrilled with.  Except the sugar-skull shower curtain.  That was accepted with enthusiasm.  Up to this point I’ve not really consulted her on brand names, options of colors and so on.  I’ve just been going from memory of what I thought she needed right away.  When you’re renting an unfurnished apartment, time is usually of the essence.  As the months go by, there will be conversations about the above issues.  Compromise, certainly.  But I figure by summertime her apartment will be pretty well decorated.  At least I hope so.

Ultimately, my thinking in this is that yes, in time she could do much of this herself, but right now money is tight and just being able to pay the rent, basic necessities and so on is eating up what she makes in her job.  If I can help her out right now, it will pay dividends in the future, when I’m able to travel, visit and reap the rewards of her being able to live in comfort, rather than having only the bare basics.  No one should have to sleep on the floor in their own apartment.  Or eat off paper plates with plastic utensils.

 

Updated Inventory

Since I’ve shelved any possibility of being able to play this year, I really don’t have much to report on this blog.  Quite honestly, this wasn’t how I wanted my kinky life to progress.

In the interim, I’ve been contemplating ways to set my toys aside in a safe manner, so they can be picked up again and be in good repair when interaction and play resumes.  I’m hoping that will be in 2021, but without any good news on the efficacy of the vaccines that have been reported, at present that’s little more than a pipe dream.

I posted before about getting storage bins at a place like Big Lots!, and squirreling away things that need better protection like my leather floggers, and industrial/hospital restraints.  The restraints for the most part are a bit more hardy than the floggers, singletails and such.  They’re designed for rough and tumble use, but the hides that the floggers and whips are made from, are a bit more delicate and need to be better stored than just tossed into a box, or hung from a tie rack in the back of my closet.

While I’m mulling and planning for their long-term storage, I’ve been considering making a more definitive inventory of my toys.  Over the past 25 years I’ve been collecting, and putting aside things in a spare bedroom (two, actually) and have in many ways lost track of just what I do happen to have.  When I first started this blog, I did a half-assed photo inventory of my collection, and even posted some of the pictures here.  I definitely think it’s time for an update in that regard.  If for no other reason than to have a better idea of all the different things I have.  I’m certain there are many redundancies, and probably a need for divesting myself of the excess.  My girl has told me that she wants me to keep all of the hospital restraints that I have, even though she might be unaware of just how many of them I do happen to have in my possession.  Not quite enough to outfit your average psych ward, but I could most definitely secure a fair few in good stead.  Food for thought, right?

Many of the items are probably too big or too small for my slave.  Not having had her here to measure against, I bought many things that were a good price, without having a care about size.  Certainly it will be difficult to part with some of the pieces, but if they’re not the right size, then they’re not doing us much good.  There’s only so much space for things, and I’d rather be making use of the toys, rather than just having four or five versions in varying sizes, thinking that in the future there might be need for a size bigger or smaller than she.  I know she has a pet of her own, but most of the things I’ve purchased are with a female form in mind, not a male.  And naturally there are differences when it comes to delicacy versus masculinity.  Too, we have differing tastes in certain things.  So that’s a consideration as well.

I thought I’d put in a small sample of what I made pictures of before.  These were taken on a bedspread, in just the natural light of our spare bedroom, and an overhead light as well.  In the intervening years I actually purchased one of those portable light boxes a few years ago, when I was considering perhaps selling some of my things on eBay.  I sold a couple of phones on Swappa.com and it worked pretty well for that.  Obviously larger items like spreader bars aren’t going to fit in a small box, so I’ll have to consider what I might do for them.  Maybe a lighting cube or just make do with the natural lighting once more.  Since I’m not in the market for selling anything right now that’s less of an issue.

I’d also considered buying an armoire, but unfortunately places like Wayfair, while having some good items, they’re mostly manufactured wood, and I don’t really like the construction of them.  If one is going to have a piece of furniture like that, it should be made of a decent hardwood like mahogany.  But I don’t have a spare $3000 to spend on a mahogany armoire.

Anyway, that’s where I’m at.  As things progress, I’ll probably be posting more here.  Or not.  We’ll see.