#aggravation

Finding new ways to bide time

Well, 2021 has turned out to be a bust when it comes to getting together, it seems.  With the pandemic, 2020 didn’t work out for a variety of reasons, but we expected this year was going to be different.  While I was able to get out and travel a bit (stayed in my home state), I wasn’t able to make the ‘big trip’ going to see my girl.  Which to be clear is a major downer, and there are more reasons than just COVID as to why this was the case.

Even so, time doesn’t stand still, and progress isn’t curtailed with an interpersonal relationship, whether it’s vanilla or kinky.

Even so, we’re moving forward to 2022.  The new plan is for her to come here in the Spring.  In the meantime, I’ve set up a video feed here so that she can have an anchor of sorts here at the house, be able to see me (which is important) and we can interact in a new way, to augment the ones that we’ve been making use of for the last three and a half years.  So far, it seems to be working out OK.  In the morning before I go to work, we can interact a bit while I get dressed and in the evening she has limited access to the house network, as much as is needed for her to be able to interact and participate.  As before, so far it seems to be working out.

Even so, the distance and the time factor hasn’t been easy on either of us.  I often equate it to a soldier in olden times going off to war (think Crusades or some conflict where communication wasn’t exactly modern) being separated by years with the folks back home and only seeing one another every few years.  A lot of things are missed in that time.

One hopes too, that come 2022 the pandemic will be a rather nasty memory in the history of the world.  And not current events.

More to come.

Slow as molasses

Still having trouble with this blog running slowly.  I’ve sent messages to both my web hosting company, and WordPress.org, but the answers are slow in coming as well.  My web hosting company is going through an upgrade of all their systems and transferred everything to new equipment, so there’s been a complete revamp of how it all is set up in the background that I have to get used to.  Pretty much that’s where the trouble began.  Once the migration was complete, I was unable to find the database that corresponded to this blog.  I emailed the support team at the web host, but they couldn’t seem to find it either.  Finally, I did a good amount of digging and discovered that it was indeed there, except that the identifier on it had changed, so my blog was unable to find it.  Once I fixed that, and changed the corresponding file on WP to point it in the right direction, I thought everything was going to be ok.  Didn’t turn out to be the case, naturally.

The blog continues to load slowly.  I thought it was just me experiencing it, but my slave mentioned it to me the other day as well.  The blog that I have for her, which is also hosted on the same server, and the same domain, runs slowly as well.  So I’m not entirely certain why that is since it’s a different setup through WordPress, but it’s all hosted in the same location.  I have many other domains here, and they all load just fine.  Just the blogs seem to be affected.  The only common denominator appears to be that the blogs utilize databases.  

Frustrating.  I hope I can figure this out.